A person who is emotionally damaged finds it difficult to love because they do not, cannot, or will not treat their partners appropriately or comprehend what relationships should entail.
They could possibly experience love. They might possess attractiveness. However, over time, people are either left alone or in really destructive relationships. I refer to these people as broken.
They will frequently be wonderful dates but avoid commitment or serious matters. They are easily hurt emotionally.
Sometimes they need to work through major issues such as emotional harm, low self-esteem, and other issues before they can be in a relationship. More people might simply have really harmful attitudes about romance, relationships, or transgender people.
People who are broken often end up assaulting their partners, becoming abusive, engaging in frequent adultery, or even raping others. They are individuals that suffer from serious issues that harm others and leave them in emotional pain.
People that are broken are not happy; deep down, they are filled with sentiments of helplessness or despair. However, they might not even be aware that they are always by themselves. Or, if they are aware, they will reject the information.
So you can’t truly tell a broken person to “just get over it.” Be a pillar of strength instead by telling them “you’re better than this” or “you are not alone.”
How do you know if you are emotionally damaged:-
1. You become enraged or agitated every time you hear a love song or observe a happy pair
It’s a terrible place to be, I can tell you that since I’ve been there.
The fact is, this only demonstrates the amount of hurt and negativity you are carrying around. Unfortunately, being that hurt means that most people won’t want to be around you until you’ve recovered.
2. You don’t even come close to meeting your own expectations
I wholeheartedly support refusing to settle on crucial issues like goals, a career, and character. I’ll be the first to admit, though, that dating culture is very entitled and shallow.
If you hold yourself to the same standards as a model with a six-figure income yet are poor, troubled, and don’t resemble Claudia Schiffer, you might be suffering from a toxic idea that is holding you back.
3. You have verbally, physically, or emotionally abused your partner
The most obvious indication that you are too broken to be in a relationship is when you abuse others.
It’s safe to assume that you may need to go inward and address what makes you hurt those who care about you if your ex-partners have frequently accused you of being aggressive or if they have protective orders against you.
4. You don’t actually consider the people you might date as humans
I mean that you fail to recognize them as unique people with their own thoughts, needs, life, and aspirations.
Many individuals who are severely emotionally damaged see the other sex as the adversary or as props.
If you conceive of the other sex as non-player characters, it might be time to reconsider how you go about dating. Because of this, dating a broken person might leave you feeling intellectually and emotionally spent and dejected.
5. Your life is ruled by your parents
Having a tight relationship with your family is not a problem. When you allow your family to sever whatever relationships you may have, something is amiss.
Additionally, it is utterly unacceptable if your parents stifle your ability to develop personally, live your own life, or even make dating decisions.
It’s a problem if your parents set all the guidelines for dating and won’t allow you to handle your own relationship. They’ve broken you if you let this happen, so it’s time to get treatment.
6. To a certain extent, you are aware that it is true that you frequently deny responsibility for your own issues.
The key to a successful relationship is accountability and genuine character. If you can’t own up to your mistakes, you’ll wind up blaming your partner for everything that goes wrong in your life.
That behavior is both indicative of a personality disorder and pretty intolerable. Start accepting responsibility for your errors and making improvements if you want your next relationship to last.
7. You tend to be avoided by people of all genders
I can tell you from experience that it is not enjoyable. Hearing what I’m about to say to you is not enjoyable either.
There is a general explanation for why people avoid you. So, to figure out what’s going on, you might need to look at your social abilities.
Fortunately, you can always improve your interpersonal skills, and this symptom is much simpler to address than others on the list.
8. You think you should punish people for the wrongs committed by others.
You are probably aware that this is the incorrect course of action. You presumably also realize that you’ll feel even worse in the long run because you’ll eventually need to make up to the folks you injured.
If you are shattered inside, you will break others. However, if you live by the sword, you will also die by it. Hurt people hurt people. Please seek professional advice if this is occurring, and stay away from the dating environment. It’s unfair to both you and the individuals you date.