The ‘Swipe right’ between international dating pandemic sees an increase over the millennium. Throwing, overnight items and connections take up the back seat. People look for long-term and deeper relationships and appreciate the connection of the soul. Here’s everything you need to know about the new trend in intentional dating.
“I think all the good men have been taken,” he said as I answered the phone. “No matter how I try to be attentive in my sweeps, I still manage to find the ones that hurt the most – they’re suitable for sweets to talk to, but can’t put their money in their mouths when committing.”
“If you’ve felt this after a Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge match, you’re probably not alone. Most of the pandemic has led them to connect people to a deeper level. And for singles so far with the intention of taking it forward.
Dating by design
The new normal has redefined love, romance, and dating. The popular dating app, Hinge, has reported an increase in the number of so-called intentional dating today.
According to the app’s research team, “Singles spent time during the pandemic reflecting on their dating lives, which made them slow down, think about what they were looking for, put an end to bad dating habits, and become more intentional with socializing. “
What does this mean for socializing after a pandemic? This simply means that people are more skilled and approach love realistically. They prune matches that can raise a few red flags and look at making a connection with someone they can possibly settle with.
“I’ve had to use dating apps to meet potential partners over the last couple of years because I’m not very interested in socializing,” says Ben D’Mello, 29, a Pune-based service development manager at IT.
“I’ve met many women whose profiles don’t tell me any connections, and every time I met someone, it was a regular exercise – we texted for a while, went on a couple of dates, had sex and we didn’t take it any further, ’” she says.
His problem with the “system” is that it has been an emotional end to him. “I invest emotionally in these conversations, but previous matches have ended up in a one-night stand. My goal with dating apps is to find a partner, not necessarily long-term. I sometimes use it as a tool in the coupling, but then update the bion accordingly. I’ve only met two women I’m genuinely connected to, and I wanted to see where this could lead, ”D’Mello says.
More conscious with choices
What does intentional dating look like in practice? Unlike slow dating, a trend that involves taking the time to get to know someone before deciding to meet him or her in person, intentional dating is a more rigorous screening process that you would apply to a potential partner.
Sumeet Manghnani, 34, a senior manager and proud hinge user at a consulting firm based in Mumbai, says: “When I first introduced the app, it was not boring and was not meant to find anything serious. But over the last couple of years, as I have started to grow and realize that I really want to settle down, my usage habits have changed. I feel more receptive to deeper, more meaningful connections. “
Naturally, increased self-awareness and the fact that people know what they want from their partner have led to more conscious choices — whether they are diet, exercise, or eating habits.
Hinge Labs (Hinge’s research team) believes the pandemic may have had a positive impact on eating habits and has inspired a new wave of intentional relationships.
Its researchers have found that two out of three users want to change their appointments when it is safe to meet again in person; 45% of its users reported developing new healthy eating habits during a pandemic; more than two-thirds of its users think more about what they are really looking for; users have also reported that they have stopped chasing people who are not interested in them; one in three users find it urgent to find a partner at the start of a pandemic, while more than half said they were ready for a long-term and serious relationship.
Single ready to mingle?
It’s no surprise that millennial people are more attentive to this dating trend, but which X or Gen Z want to socialize to drive the sunset with their dream partner?
Sonali Kapadia, a 24-year-old content producer from Bengaluru, says, “I’m not necessarily interested in a relationship, but I’m definitely interested in the idea of being more aware of how I swipe right and inevitably meet my match. “
Then there are those who want a new socializing trend, especially if it means they don’t have to deal with affectionate phobic suitors.
– I’m really excited to hear about the trend. I think I no longer have a stomach for the superficial “What are you doing to earn?” “For a drink date,” says 44-year-old bakery and single mother Sharon Gomes * of Goa